Privilege : Upbringing and Networking

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I’m a hugely privileged individual. If you’re reading this, my bet is that you are too.

I was born into a family that could afford most of the material comforts in life. I had a very happy childhood, grew up in some nice neighbourhoods. I’ve lived a big chunk of my life in some great cities and worked and met with some brilliant people who’ve influenced me more than I could ever thank them for.

I’m male. I’m straight. I’m reasonably healthy and don’t suffer from any mental problems (if you don’t count insomnia and over-thinking as a disease). I have more friends than I can keep up with and more opportunities to succeed at anything I do than I would ever care to admit. I tick all the right boxes. Almost all of the privileges and advantages that society can bestow on someone have been bestowed on me.

Many more privileges, I’ve realised, than most people want to acknowledge.

I grew up in a family where I was encouraged to read lots and lots of books, to learn and to question(one of the perks of having parents who are teachers). Because of the environment I was brought up in, I grew up to be a confident man with a high sense of self-worth and with the firm belief that my destiny lay in my very own hands.

I was given a lot of freedom to try out different things, meet interesting people, showered with love and instilled with confidence. Later, through the course of life, I happened to luck out and meet people who filled me with the sense that pretty much anything in the world is possible. I’ve had experiences and become friends with people who have opened me up to new ideas and exposed me to possibilities that I once could only have dreamed of.

Growing up in a loving family, in a decent neighbourhood with access and exposure to most things pretty early on in life adds a huge layer of hidden advantage than the more tangible one wealth provides. These things are important, and they matter much much more than what people seem to be willing to see. The safety net that your connections and your family provides makes life so much easier. They open doors for you most others may not even know exist.

And yet somehow, especially in the tech industry that I was part of and will be part of again soon, we seem to deliberately forget how privileged we really are, and seem to believe that we’re exactly the opposite.

We convince each other that we’ve made huge successes of our lives through sheer talent and intelligence and anyone else who hasn’t, has failed because they don’t ‘get’ it as we do, they’re not as smart as us and are just plain lazy or bad at math.

I understand where some of it comes from. Intelligence does play a good part in this — but I suspect that part is vastly overrated. I know that I’m reasonably intelligent by any kind of standards anyone uses — but I’ve also realised that just intelligence hasn’t been the most important thing why most things in life have worked out for me so far.

More than anything else, it’s because the world is rigged in my favour. People like me are ‘meant’ to succeed. That’s just the way society is designed.

In hindsight, I entered the tech industry by sheer luck and coincidence. Initially I was fixated on Mechanical Engineering at first , then on Electrical Engineering and finally ended up in Computer Science and Engineering. Then I fell in love with English and games. What happened then was a lot of Game Design and Writing (as a freelancer). Then suddenly I switched to UX and right now I am studying Data Science leaving my job suddenly. Data Science wasn’t planned , VR was planned. In a short period of time, I had worked in more domains and with more tech stacks than most people in their entire career.Coincidence only even made possible because of my privilege.

I worked on some really cool products simply by being in the right place at the right time and because some people were kind enough to give me a chance. I dated some really nice girls and made some amazing friends because I ticked all the right boxes. I’ve had access to some great job opportunities and I get to hang around some brilliant people because they see me as a ‘peer’.

Much like network effects, our privilege is all-encompassing, ever-protective, self-perpetuating yet invisible. So much of the privilege is hidden into the system that you cannot even see it.

That, in the end then is the most important thing to know.

However intelligent and smart you consider yourself to be, you’ll never really know what life is like for other people. You won’t really know their pain and problems, how hard things are for them.

I’ll never really know what it is to be poor. Even if I do — I’ll be poor knowing that I have a family that will always support me, that I’ll never have to worry about a roof over my head or food to eat, and that I have the education, experience and connections that will invariably help me out.

Wealthy people will never know what it’s really like to be poor. Straight men will never know what it’s like to be gay. Men will never really know what it’s like to be a woman. Able-bodied people will never know what it feels like to be differently abled.

There are a few things that we’d do well to remember and remember often: that we are deeply privileged and very lucky.

Do we struggle? Yes, we do.

But perhaps a lot less than those who didn’t hit some kind of cosmic lottery that we did. And when we’re a wee bit more humble, we might just get a little bit better at imagining what it’s like to be someone else. What it is to truly be in someone else’s shoes.

Some of life’s greatest lessons come from comic books and Uncle Ben was right on the money when he said: with great power comes great responsibility.

Do we have power?

Yes.

Maybe not as much as we’d like, but we still have it.

And we have to be better at this.

This is important.

There are people out there who are asking you to listen.

  • Listen to them. Try and understand them. More importantly, believe them. It is possible that you think that the stories you hear are implausible. What’s more likely is that you don’t realise your advantages and it hurts your fragile ego to be told that.
  • Use your abundant imagination and walk a mile in someone’s uncomfortable shoes. It’s not that hard to do.
  • Open up.
  • Confirm and confront your biases as best as you can.
  • Have the humility to recognise that while we can try to imagine what it is like for the others, we’ll never really know.
  • Remember your position of privilege.
  • Know how to not talk like you already have all the answers. To shut up and listen.
  • Most importantly, be kind to everyone that you encounter.

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Now some songs on which I am tripping now a days.

 

 

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The Times They Are A-Changin

I don’t remember where and when I heard this song for the first time but the tune and the words got stuck in my mind. At that time, I didn’t knew it was Bob Dylan’s. Later on in college, I discovered it and since then I became a fan of him.

No, this post is not about that song. It is just the title. And the title needs to be clear. The song is used as a metaphor to depict the changes which are going on around me, which I am going to tell you in the coming paragraphs.

It’s been a while and by while I mean about last 3 months. Things were tough. Lots of things were happening at the office and I was at my wit’s end to comprehend what was happening and in that moment, lots of things were taking place simultaneously and it was just impossible for me to keep a tab on all of it. But those times hopefully have ended and I resigned from Cognizant few weeks back. There were two options in front of me then. I was in final stages of my company change and simultaneously was in the process of getting admitted in a post graduate program. It isn’t a two year or one year program but a 6 month program and it is a joint venture between a popular game engine company and a renowned MBA college. I applied there and after 2-3 rounds of interviews and tests, I was waiting for the results. And the results came back positive. And now there is 80% chance that I am going to join the program as I wanted a substantial background to enter a game/ design studio and the folks at home wanted me to go for further study. So this is a good option for me and my folks. Everyone will be happy. And who knows, after this, I may actually go for a full time program. But who knows, what lies on the other end of the road. This abrupt decision has one big implication : I was planning to get myself a normal and decent second hand 150cc bike this year and next year, a Triumph Street Triple. I am in love with this bike and this is the only bike which I hadn’t crashed till now. That’s a nice thing because I am very good at crashing things especially bikes.


Triumph Street Triple


I don’t have much to write this time. Because nothing exciting happened which can be put down to words. There were lots of running here and there, office work load was at it’s peak and at the same time I was interviewing at startups and product companies. I planned to change the direction of my career this January only and I realized apart from good bonuses and good times, I wasn’t going anywhere in my career. When you have are over 35, you may want to settle down a bit and take things lightly but when you have just started working and if you have some support, then you can take some risks and you must take it. Because if the chicken will not cross the road, the chicken will never know what lies on that side of the road. And the other side of the road for me is a startup or a product company. I wished to join a fast pace work environment where I believe I would be trusted to try out my ideas on User Experience. By the way, I suck at Visual Design because I just don’t get (understand) colors like my peers. And that thing could only happen at startups and product companies. For that thing to happen in a service company, you really need a lot of good lucks on your side. And on the other hand, it is very difficult to teach people that Visual Design is just a small part of UX Design. Okay, last line was little bit out of the context.


Visual Design is a part of User Experience Design.

UI is not same as UX.


The last two lines are also out of the context.


So, I spent 2.8 years at Cognizant and this being my first company wasn’t what I expected my first job to be but still first time is always invaluable in one’s life. Generally it happens that you are hired for one particular role and you end up doing that only but with me, things got crazy than usual and I ended up working on different technologies in different domains and with every new assignment there was a complete unknown terrain for me to learn, fail and succeed. Sometimes, it got very frustrating but sometimes those experiences came in handy to tackle various situations.


There were good times and bad times. There were lots of good people and horrible people. But the thing that worked out in my favor was whoever person I met and worked taught me a lots of lessons. So you can say that a lot of people mentored me on life. Some in a good way and some in a bad way.

Now a new journey is about to start and let’s see where life will take me. The details be on the Facebook and Twitter at the right time from the right place.


So, at last I will share few of my favorite Bob Dylan songs. 


https://youtu.be/PYF8Y47qZQY

An evening with “ADS”.

NSFW content ahead. So please go ahead if your mental age is more than 18. I am not saying real age 18 because I have seen a lot of adult babies in my life and I despise them as they think having age greater than me makes them senior and more mature than me and we all know it is not at all true. You know what it is , it is BULLSHIT. Mental age is a very different thing than the Real age and we should focus on Mental one rather than Real one. Ok, enough with my RANT, now let’s go back to the main content.

What is ADS?
It is short form of advertisements and it is used in day to day language (who wants to say “Advertisements” when you can say “Ads” as it has 11 less words).

We see ads here and there in our day to day life. We all see ads in different forms : print, graphs, audio,video, animated and friends. Okay, we can understand all the forms of ads mentioned above but how Friends are ads? They wear different types of ads. Their watch, clothes, bike they ride, cars they drive, channels they watch, social media platforms they consume, airlines they fly with ; they are advertising all that and we also follow them with a belief that “those things will be good as my friend is using it regularly” and people are staunch supporters of what they use and like.

So now, lets give a background story of how I met with Ads.
We all have mothers, grandmas, sisters and elder ladies in our home. And they love watching crappy Ekta Kapoor’s serials and their more crappy clones and no one dares to ask for TV from them at that time because they become Kali Maa and we can’t afford that. So we wait for the breaks and in the breaks , we meet Ads of a vast range of things from soaps to cements to stationary to foods and what not. Name it and there is an ad for them whether they are broadcasted on the TV or not, but they are there. You can watch them on Youtube, Vimeo and Dailymotion(I think you know the search terms 😛 and if you don’t ,you are an adult baby ,congrats).

I thought of writing this because of a conversation with a friend about Ads specifically Airtel 4G girl and Idea Ad. And random indie song videos on the Youtube will introduce to the Durex ads. They are to the point and no irritating jingle(Idea have a very irritating yet catchy jingle : “get get get idea”).

Now I will put some of the print Ad campaigns of the Durex and Airtel here and try to differentiate them. And differentiate among them on these factors:
1) To the Point
2) Forces to think what next
3) Outreach to Target Customers
4) Imaginative

Durex print Ads:

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Airtel 4G Ads:

Now lets do the differentiation:
1) Both are to the point but Airtel one is misleading one as we know what is the truth of the Airtel data speeds.

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2) Durex one is the one which let’s you think what next and you know the endless possibilities.

3) Airtel ad is omnipresent. And the product placers didn’t even thought that people are not going to change their networks on the basis of one ad. They will switch only when they find their friend’s network really satisfactory.

4) Durex : 1
Airtel : 0
See these two ads of Idea.

Both the ads are pretty much same other than the different product placements.

So now understand what I am talking about.

There is also a Youtube channel in which Sahil Shah presents our frustations with the most obnoxious ads in a funny way with a pinch of spices.

Ok, you don’t want to see all those videos because you don’t have time. Fine , do yourself a favour and watch how he destroys the Airtel 4G girl.

Here is one very bad placed ad featuring Shah Rukh Khan.

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Now let’s see what Ogilvy has to say about it :http://www.slideshare.net/vinod_iitr2/advertising-industry-analysis-ogilvy-and-m ather-report

Ogilvy is an Ad agency which has created some finest piece of ads like :
http://www.trendhunter.com/slideshow/captivating-ogilvy-campaigns

You can also follow them on Instagram to see their works:
Ogilvy UK : https://www.instagram.com/ogilvyuk/
Ogilvy SA : https://www.instagram.com/ogilvysa/
Ogilvy Mather US : https://www.instagram.com/ogilvymather/
Ogilvy India (Facebook): https://www.facebook.com/OgilvyMatherIndia/

Ogilvy India is headed by none other than the legendary Piyush Pandey (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Piyush_Pandey).
So you don’t know him, okay ,let me give you a brief introduction:
Piyush Pandey has won a number of awards.He was named the most influential man in Indian advertising for eight consecutive years by The Economic Times.In 2000, the Ad Club of Mumbai voted his commercial for Fevikwik the commercial of the century and his work for Cadbury the campaign of the century.Pandey was voted Asia’s Creative Person of the Year at the Media Asia Awards 2002. He is the only Indian to win a double gold at Cannes (for his Cancer Patients Association anti-smoking campaign) and a triple grand prize at the London International Awards. During Pandey’s tenure, O&M India won 25 lions at Cannes. In 2002, he won India’s first Silver Pencil at The One Show Awards.Pandey received a lifetime achievement award in 2010 from the Advertising Agencies Association of India.

He was invited to be a jury member on the 2000 Clio Awards, at the 2002 Cannes Film Festival and was the first Asian jury president for outdoor and press and film at the 2004 Cannes Lions International Advertising Festival.He was invited to judge the 2007 Asia Pacific Advertising Festival Awards.

And the founder of Ogilvy is none other than David Ogilvy also known as The Father of Advertising.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Ogilvy_(businessman)

There are lots of other advertisement firms in the world (established and new ones).
Some established ones are:
1 Ogilvy & Mather
2 IDEO
3 Leo Burnett
4 JWT
5 BBDO
6 Wieden + Kennedy
7 Forza Migliozzi
8 McCann Erickson
9 Razorfish
10 Edelman

Some Indian ones are:
1. Ogilvy & Mather
2. McCann Erickson India
3. Mudra Communications
4. FCB Ulka
5. Saatchi & Saatchi
6. The Glitch (My favorite. Check its portfolio, you will understand why.)

So I believe you understand the basics of Good ads and Bad ads.

Now , the ritual part:

Random Cartoon:

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Random Video :

Programming : Solution or a part of the Solution.

Coding Academies Are Nonsense

I encountered this article and it has some very nice points about the rise of the Coding Bootcamps and what is the current reality of them. If you haven’t read it yet, go through it before continuing here on this post (link is right above).

How I decided that I am going to write about it ?
I have friends and they all believe only programming is going to get them to highs in their life and when I ask them what made them think so , they start showing me articles, news clips and examples. But are those examples provides a complete informative picture ? No,they don’t. And when you try to discuss something with delusional people, beware you are going to be taught a lots of things which are miles away from the reality. But you don’t destroy relationships on the basis of ideologies , so you write about it and let people decide for themselves : what is right and what is wrong ?Then I found the above article and decided to increase my number of tweets by 1 and after that ,thought let’s give this post a shot. And now we are here, me writing and you reading.

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Programmers might disagree with this article as the today’s StartUp scene has glorified the Programmers thanks to the movies like “The Social Network” and sitcoms like “Silicon Valley”.

People opposed the movie “The Social Network” by arguing that it is not the correct interpretation of the founding of the Facebook but if you ignore the accuracy of the founding of Facebook and take it as fiction , you will discover that Mark Zuckerberg inspite of not being only a good programmer was also a man who took the complete oversight of the development of Facebook by hiring some great people to handle the basic intricacies which made the Facebook one of the coolest websites to hangout and a disruptive company which is now changing the Internet feature by feature.

See the list of some of the best(first) hires at the Facebook.
https://www.smartrecruiters.com/blog/the-10-hires-that-made-facebook-facebook/

Sitcom “Silicon Valley” handled it very carefully. Episode by episode , it shows how the Pied Piper hired some guys to provide a clear roadmap about how to go from a Garage company to a company which will change the world by solving a problem(data compression) and in the same time handle the juggernaut(Hooli) which is very good at plagiarism.

Now back to the real life.
I like photography and Instagram , Snapseed , Boomerang (by Instagram) and Sketch are my favourite apps. So whenever I get time I go through their Engineering blogs to read about their work. So I came across this article and it provided few things which solidified my opinion. (Go see my Instagram feed and follow me: https://instagram.com/abhinav_grv/).

Go through this nice article, also.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/11568119/Instagrams-Kevin-Systrom-Im-dangerous-enough-to-code-and-sociable-enough-to-sell-our-company.html
See the headline , “I am dangerous enough to code and sociable enough to sell our company”.
Not all programmers are sociable. They are hard coded nerds with a belief that programming is what running the world.

It is true upto an extent but
1.) What are you going to program in vacuum?
2.) Is your code solving any problem?
3.) Is your code optimized enough to not disturb the other resources and the solve the issue at hand?

So, if these questions were answered with utmost truth , you will also know(learn) what I know(learned).

Programming is a cool thing and I am a Programmer myself and I have been doing it from 2004 , but now I am in a transition mode to become a Product Curator as I love to see, handle and get involved in the both extrinsic and intrinsic aspects of the Product Development. I respect Programmers as they build cool systems but what is the use of a system which is of “no value”.

But more focus should on the end to end development of the solutions.
Below are some of the links, go through them to understand the profile(s) of the real problem solvers.
1.) https://medium.com/swlh/the-role-of-a-product-manager-e0354b4b6845#.txhfoyiax
2.) http://a16z.com/2012/06/15/good-product-managerbad-product-manager/
3.) https://medium.com/@matbalez/product-manager-you-are-664d83ee702e#.k9r1gxezi
4.) https://medium.com/swlh/the-role-of-a-product-manager-e0354b4b6845#.tez6lksx9

If for sometime, we let go ourselves from our ego , then only we will be able to see the real problem and what steps should be taken to solve it.

On the ending note :
“Focus on the steps required to solve a problem but don’t get stuck on the step itself.”

Problems and it’s Solutions.

I might be the right guy to talk about this as I always had the pleasure to create more problems around me and when I create problems, I create big ones which automatically raises the stake very high and somebody else needs to come and solve it for me but solution-by-others used to be the case of some years back and it created a sense of dependency on others and depending on others is the worst thing I can imagine in my life because if you are dependent on others, in their absence you are just lost and can’t figure out your next moves for that situation. So it is better to try solving it by hit and trial method. But is “hit and trial” method is the only one method to solve problem?
No.

So I devised a blueprint of problem solving of few steps using which any problem can be solved and even if the problem isn’t solved, the stakes will be lowered because you would have already neutralized some of the issues which led to heightened of the stakes.

These are the few approaches to solve a problem and it is arranged in the “experience” level i. e.  you reach the next step once you understood the base level ; Yes, you can jump but it will not be useful as you will not have your basics correct and that can create problems in the later stages.

Steps :
1. Hit and Trial.
2. Socialize.
3. Read.
4. Breaking and Simplifying.
5. Ignoring.

1. Hit and Trial.
This is the basic one and the most important one. You have a problem at hand and you don’t know how to approach it. So you have to start thinking pragmatically and lay out few possible solutions. And start applying them, sometimes it will solve the problem, sometimes it will not but it will surely solve it partially or it will make the problem more clear. As most of the times , we look at the problem from the wrong angle and by redefining problem (correctly) will again lay out few possible solutions which we again have to try. But what will be the next step when all your laid out possible solutions fails ; this makes us go to our next step.

2. Socialize.
We have all kinds of people around us and we are always ashamed to go to them and ask them and talk to them regarding them.  Yes, you can say that people don’t always help you and appreciate that you are trying to solve a problem by yourself instead they will laugh at you. Yes, people are like that. But not all.  You have to figure out the right persons to approach.
How will you learn to differentiate among people?
By experience. It may take some time, but you will eventually become a good reader of people’s character and the sooner you learn this art, the better for you. So now you have the people to talk to, they will share their experiences and in that experience you may find your solutions or you may again redefine your problem.  So what now, if the problem is not solved but we will have a brand new look at the problem. We go to the next logical step.

3. Read.
Reading is a dangerous habit. It opens your mind. It gives you new ideas about a lot of things and the more you read, the more avenues opens up for you to go and explore.
So how does Reading is related to solving a problem?
When you read something, you actually walk through one’s mind, you get to see their thought process and their experiences and with all that in hand you can approach your problem and might solve it. But if not, congratulations, you are going to redefine your problem (again).

4. Breaking and Simplifying.
Now we are going on the Maths way. We are going to break it in the simple subproblems and try to solve them in the bottom-up manner and by doing that most of the problems gets solved. As to solve the subproblems, you are going to start from the step 1 only as at the root level, subproblem is also a problem and these is the right method to solve a problem. And even after that if your problem is not solved then sorry to say the final step is your final retort.

5. Ignoring.
Yes, ignore it.
Not all the problems are meant to be solved. And not all the problems are meant to be solved completely. So just sit back and relax as you are not going to enjoy your life if you don’t have a problem in life.

And if you want to grow in life, start finding problems to solve or better, CREATE IT.

Paradoxical Excuses…

So, it has been 1 month and 1 week ( approx ) since I wrote something here which is a clear violation of the rule of ” 1 post per week”, also set by me. So now I am going to lay out all my excuses of why I didn’t write in that period. The same thing can be viewed as the status report ( thanks CTS for bringing the concept of “status report” in my life ) of where I was busy those days.

Professional side excuses :

Where CTS is taking me, I am still clueless as I didn’t have been allotted a fixed plan of my responsibilities at the work. So within 1 month, I had gained a good working knowledge of LoadRunner, Ruby, JavaScript, Analytics and a very basic idea of Python.

Experimented with the food at office a lot, which costed me a lot of stomach pains.

Lessons learnt : What looks good, is not always good ; this applies in the food also.

Social life in the office is nearly 0 as I am too busy in hustling here and there. But i need to keep a tab on it by searching a platform so that I can stick to it.

Though I had made some nice friends but all because of mutual connections so as long nothing is starting from the scratch, it doesn’t matter a lot. But it matters significantly.

Personal side excuses :

I am back with my girl P ; thanks Mr A for the advice. I will try to keep my mood swings in check.

Read a lot of books. Some are “finished” and some are the “in progress”. Last month, I bought so much books that I practically lose sight of time and space to focus on one book and ended up on spending a lot of everything on them.

List :
1. The 48 laws of power by Robert Greene.
2. Think like a freak by Steven D Levitt and Stephen J Dubner.
3. The art of seduction by Robert Greene.
4. Simple Rules : How to thrive in a complex world by Donald Sull and Kathleen M Eisenhardt .
5. Thus Spake Zarathustra by Friedrich Nietzsche.
6. Mastery by Robert Greene.
7. Gamification by Design by Gabe Zichermann and Christopher Cunningham.

Went with college-friends-now-colleagues on a short trip to Nandi Hills and Skandgiri Hills. The whole trip was OK other than some chutzpah of one stupid idiot. But it can be ignored.

(Yes, now I can handle a lot of stupidity simultaneously. This is what I wanted to learn from early on but CTS taught me that in 1 month.)

The images on my trip can be viewed from this link ( if you are any interested which i will assume you are not).

Link :
https://goo.gl/photos/kzKpaRYTH7DdinYQA

That’s all of my excuses, Now I have to run as I have to go to office also.

Random Funny pics I found on the net…

X men cartoon :

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I DON’T KNOW cartoon :

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Books : How and Why

Today, I snoozed my alarm 3 times before realizing that I, too, have to go to the office. So I got ready and went for the breakfast and I have a very bad habit of continuously doing 2-3 things together and I know it is bad as nothing gets my full attention but what to do, I still have to figure that out. Now back to what I was telling ; before I started about my ( bad ) habits. So this Times of India article caught my attention.
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And I just realised that Books are the last things in the world on which I really want a war on. But right now, a war is brewing among the readers all over the world and it is not about the Books, it is about the medium. And the main two involved media are the Physical form Prints and Digital form Ebooks.

Before I start to share my thoughts on this, it would be nice that you go through this short video ; it is a nice introduction if you still haven’t figured out what I am talking about. It is from Jumpstart’14 and it shows Anshumani Ruddra silencing an overconcerned self righteous parent ( so called educator ) on the very same topic which I am discussing.

Talk about influence of book and mobile apps(games included) by Anshumani Ruddra at Jumpstart’14.

Now you may question me that the above video is about the influence of books and mobile apps ( games in this context ) on the children but it is a well known fact that the habits which we develop as a child goes with the us to our deathbed also and believe me if I say that the most legal and cheapest test subjects in the today’s world are the children. See around you, we all are merely the results of the experiments of our parents. Our taste, choices and decisions are the results of the ideological experiments of our parents. This may sound absurd. But see around you, we want to give our children nice experiences and facilities which we never got in our childhood and yet we don’t want them to be get spoiled but if we give our children everything that they demand they are sooner or later going to be spoiled, but we can’t say that it is going to happen, there are chances but we don’t know and say that for sure. This is a experiment, isn’t it? Think about it. Sooner or later, we have to raise kids. 😉

So I think now you have got the gist of what I want to talk about.

Books are our first friends outside our parents. And our parents, usually, are the medium through which we meet them.

Books tells us what to expect from the world. It tells us about the different types of world which exists in our world. It tells us about the future, past and present scenarios of the world through the view points of different thinkers who are nice enough to share their viewpoint with us ( not everyone wants to share their experiences and viewpoints ).

Books gives us the food for thought. It gives us the base upon which we can make our stories. The list is endless.

But is a war needed for the books on the basis of medium in which it is consumed? No, definitely no.

Whatever medium we may choose but books should be consumed, i mean read.

Now back to the main topic, every individual has a choice and they do things according to that. And that same choice and taste goes to the selection of books to read.

But should we read only those books which interest us? No. We should read everything and anything on which we could get our hands on , that way we can learn a lot of things about lots of things. Sometimes even knowing something which is not of your domain helps a lot in surprising situations which is sometimes very fruitful.

So buy the books, physical, which is of your taste and go for the digital ones of the other types of books. And in case you loved the book, buy it too.

It feels good to see your own little library at the home, isn’t it?

So, be smart when to buy a physical book and when to buy a digital one.

But Read, read and read. It will open millions of gates for you to have a wonderful journey.

Special Mention goes to the beautiful exotic-looking and enchanting specimen of the opposite fairer sex whom I saw last Friday and got introduced on Monday.I was instantly attracted towards her, something about her appearance revolted me and due to that this post come out after 3-4 sittings which proves I am under a lot of distraction these days.

Sense of direction…

The idea of this post was originally conceived as an Instagram post which I made few days back. It was a normal quotation (by me).  It was like this.

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So, what was the background story for this type of post?
Recently after a long battle / struggle, I finally got a project and it felt boring which can be understood by my this tweet ( also few days back).

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Joining this team started a battle inside me and with others who are in my team. It is not a physical battle ; it is more of a mental type or it will be better to call it “the battle of ideologies”.  What they are saying might be true, but I feel they are disillusioned as they still haven’t figured out, ” What they actually want from their life?” and without this question to guide you, it is very easy to get lost in the world, thanks to the modern day society which breeds on Reality TV shows, dual face meetings and empathy is a long lost word in their dictionary upon which the world was really built upon.

I made some assumptions and sat down with them for tea to verify my assumptions and all of it came out TRUE.

Their first mistake is that they don’t know what they want to do in life?  Be it on personal side or professional side, they are still clueless.

Second in their job search process, they are not using smart improvisation. Job profiles are same in every company of the same tier level but what is different is that the name they use to describe it. And in that scenario, to avoid confusion among job seekers, there is a specific industry term for that and they don’t know what is that and they aren’t searching according to it, they are doing with the company specific names. If you have to go to America, first you need to learn about America and then figure it out : how and why? But saying, I want to go to London of America, will never yield any result.

Then came their next mistake : the lack of optimism. Yes, optimism. You need to be optimistic about your work that if you work smartly and beautifully, you will never fail and in the worst case, you will figure out a way out of it. Optimism comes from the self belief that you are strong enough to leave a legacy for the next generation. Many people lack this, these days. All they care about is their impressions on others, money and security but they don’t matter. What matters is the legacy.

Sense of direction is important. It makes you wake up in the morning to work towards a dream and gives me enough fire to go through the darkest hours of the life as everything new has to go through the darkest possible hours which one can imagine.

I may be wrong, but I have my assumptions and without checking it out with the world, I am not going to mark it as FALSE.

My recent attitude, many people have started calling it my Arrogance, recently got +1ed by this wonderful book I came across.

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